This post is part of my "Guest Lolita's" series. It was not written by me.
My name is James Chiong, a gothic and sweet Lolita who currently hails from Charleston, SC. I have been a cross-dresser for about 12 years but I have been a Lolita for a little over a year and half now.
It all started one summer day in 2009. I was going through another one of my cross-dressing inspiring picture searches on google images, maybe something that involved turning my beloved broom skirts into something more flattering. What I found instead was one of the most inspiring things I have ever found in my life. This was the day I came across Mana.
I was astounded! I had never seen anything like this. But it wasn’t his female silhouette that captured me. It was his dress that, at the time, was the most gorgeous dress I had ever seen. Everything he had on, from the petticoats to the wig to the makeup, amazed me. This fashion, which I came to find out was called Lolita, was EVERYTHING I had ever wanted as a cross-dresser.
As a guy Lolita, aka a ‘bro’lita, dressing up in frills and lace is an exhilarating experience. I love being able to coordinate an entire outfit that can be mine. Everything, from the dress and the blouse all the way down to my shoes and even the wig I wear, is something that excites me and makes me just feel pretty. Even the little subtle things such as makeup, bloomers, and petticoats help add to the overall experience of it all.
But Lolita is more than just a fashion. It’s a lifestyle. And even now, when I cannot wear it as often I would like, it continues to inspire me. It has become the catalyst that allowed me to open up in ways I never could have imagined. Through lolita I've met dozens of people I would normally have little to no interaction with and have learned to take pride in my outfits despite what others may think. Lolita has helped me to find the strength to carry on, and to live my life as the person I dream of.